Recommended Reading

Recommended Reading

These books are often recommended by our therapists to help in the recovery process.


For Partners
  • Mending A Shattered Heart A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts by Stefanie Carnes
  • Facing Heartbreak Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts by Stefanie Carnes
  • Back from Betrayal, by Jennifer P. Schneider
  • Emotional Sobriety: From Relationship Trauma to Resilience and Balance by Tian Dayton
  • Don't Call It Love: Recovery From Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes
  • Facing Codependence: What it is, where it comes from, and how it sabotages our lives

For Couples
  • Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship by Stan Tatkin PsyD MFT
  • Love and War in Intimate Relationships: Connection, Disconnection, and Mutual Regulation in Couple Therapy
  • Emotional Sobriety: From Relationship Trauma to Resilience and Balance by Tian Dayton
  • Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction by Alexandra Katehakis
  • Closer Together, Further Apart: The Effect of Technology and the Internet on Parenting, Work, and Relationships by Robert Weiss & Jennifer P. Schneider
  • Come Here Go Away: Stop Running from the Love You Want by Ralph Earle
  • The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work by Terrence Real

On Sex Addiction
  • Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick J. Carnes Ph.D.
  • When He's Married to Mom: How to Help Mother-Enmeshed Men Open Their Hearts to True Love and Commitment by Kenneth M. Adams
  • Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men by Robert Weiss
  • Healing the Shame that Binds You by John Bradshaw
  • A Gentle Path through the Twelve Steps: The Classic Guide for All People in the Process of Recovery by Patrick J. Carnes
  • Sexual Anorexia: Overcoming Sexual Self-Hatred by Patrick J. Carnes

On Love Addiction and Codependence
  • Ready to Heal: Breaking Free of Addictive Relationships by Kelly McDanie
  • Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love by Pia Mellody
  • Is It Love or Is It Addiction: The Book That Changed the Way We Think About Romance and Intimacy by Brenda Schaeffer
  • The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie
  • Emotional Sobriety: From Relationship Trauma to Resilience and Balance by Tian Dayton

On Attachment
  • Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help YouFind - and Keep - Love by Amir Levine Rachel Heller
  • Attachment Trauma & Healing: Understanding and Treating Attachment Disorder in Children, Families and Adults by Michael Orland, Terry M. Levy
  • Healing Trauma: Attachment, Mind, Body and Brain by Daniel J. Siegel, Marion Solomon

On Trauma
  • The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships by Patrick Carnes
  • Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives by Pia Mellody
  • Healing the Shame that Binds You by John Bradshaw
  • A Gentle Path through the Twelve Steps: The Classic Guide for All People in the Process of Recovery by Patrick J. Carnes
  • I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression by Terrence Real
  •  Emotional Sobriety: From Relationship Trauma to Resilience and Balance by Tian Dayton